lol, I took a jsfiddle I found in the forums that was close enough to what I needed and modified it..
I took your suggestions and came up with this:
http://jsfiddle.net/jeremy_b/mLt4xyLk/4/From the main grid all I care about are, add a row, delete a row, auto save name and expand somehow..
On the detail grid all I care about is auto updating when a checkbox is checked.
In my revised code auto-update works except when delete is pressed saveChanges isn't called.
Also wondering is there a better way to present this information..
eg: when you click on a row the column "Secret Names" it automatically expands and when you click on another row it collapses while the next row expands.